Relationships need space to grow!!!

“Relationships need space to grow”. I read it somewhere and realized, How true it is !!!

No matter how much you love the person, no matter how much you love their company, no matter how much you are dependent on them or they are dependent on you, the only thing needs to be maintained is that little space in between to add a sweetness to your relation.

Nobody likes being forced for the things they don’t want to do or don’t like to do. Neither you.

Always remember one thing, when you restrict someone from doing what they want, they will still do it without telling you. So it is better that you allow them so that they respect & share it with you. This also gives you a chance to bring them on right path if they are going wrong. They will also listen to you as they know that you don’t unnecessarily annoy.  But when you are not being told anything you have no idea what’s going on. You will come to know only when something goes miserably wrong & it would be too late to correct.

When it is with your partner, don’t be his or her tail everywhere. Let him be free for some time. Let him be alone, be with his friends, be with his elders he likes. Let him do what he wants even if you don’t like it. And you know what, you will enjoy the same.

Sometimes do some things for him which you don’t like but make sure not to make it a habit to do it always without your consent. Let the other person have a realization that you are doing something for him and you can’t keep doing that every time. Let it come as their turn as well to do something for you which he doesn’t like.

When it with elders or Youngers, always remember that there is always a generation gap, may be a big or small. But it is there. Let it be. Don’t force them to come to yours’s or even you don’t go to theirs’s. Be in your own zone & set the other person free in theirs.  It’s all about accepting each other. Don’t change. Change is good for health only if you want it or like it.

Relationships are like the fire. 

If you want to get the warmth from it, 

you need to be at specific distance from it. 

Neither too close nor too far. 

If you are closer more than required, it will burn you. 

If you are far than required, you will not feel the warmth.

This little space bring you closer. Think about it.

Go, Give It & Have It!!!

Happy Woman's Day !!!

I see Woman as “Wo”nderful version of “Man”.
I think God first thought of Man then he added few wonderful things & first created “wo”man”.
Yes, she has something more than man in every aspect, right from more clothing options to more diligence, more responsibility, more pain, more emotions and sensibility.
She is friendlier, more self-driven, and more independent.
Woman is unfolded over a period of time since many generations. Right from being a home “maker”, she can now “make” almost everything.
We used to see her as mother, sister, friend and daughter in early generations. But now along with that, we also see her as Graduate, Leader, Doctor, Inspector, astronaut, player, entrepreneur and what not. We see her around us almost everywhere.
We celebrate Women's day to make her realize how important she is to herself.
I am grateful to the one who started this.

Happy Woman's Day!!!

She is Not for SELL ...

A typical conversation between girl’s & boy’s parents while fixing marriage in Indian family needs a TURN.

After general discussion between parents & when they come to the point, see how “deal” starts from boy’s parents & ends with a punch from girl’s parents.

“So …Let’s come to the point. How are you planning for a marriage of your daughter? We want a grand wedding from your side & I believe you will give your daughter 10 Toda gold, all household things etc.

I can’t promise this much. I will definitely give whatever I want, to my daughter.

Look, my son is an engineer in MNC. He earns lakhs of money; He will keep your daughter very happy.We have not demanded much. In fact, this much is less for what he deserves.

Oh..  Sorry.. I didn’t know that your son is For SELL. In that case, he is cheaper than my daughter. My daughter also earns as much as he does, she is as educated as he is,. In fact she is more deserved than him as she knows many more things than your son like household activities, she can manage home, your parents, job etc simultaneously.  She is independent in every aspect.

In this sense, actually you need to pay us but sorry boss, she is not for sell.

Please sell him somewhere else. We are not interested. Thanks for the offer.”

Most of the girl's parents take the demands lightly for the reason even though they would not have asked, we would have given this much. But wait, its not about how much are they demanding... Its about their attitude of "Demanding". 

Giving on your own is a Gift. Giving on demand is dowry.  

Don't wrap dowry as gift...

Think about it.

Lonelyhood !!!

When you are alone, that’s the best time actually what you have with you.  Its actually like you are spending time with nobody else but you & if you are not happy which means you don’t like your own company. Is it so?

Learn to enjoy your own company. You are alone at home & got bored.. Go out on the road, see around, may be this time you will see things differently than usual, because you don’t have anybody’s perception or view with you. It is You. Your view.

You don’t know how to paint, still, take a brush & start. You will end up with something new, may be the good one. You will not believe that you have done it.

You can sing louder & louder no matter how worst your voice is.

You can dance as wild as you want, as passionately as you want. Nobody will stop you.

You can cook for yourself whatever you like the most.

You can read. You can write.

Don’t worry about future, but you can think of it better.

Being alone comes with a freedom of doing what you love. 
You are not liable to answer anyone for whatever you love to do.

Learn to enjoy lonelyhood. I love this.

Think about it !!!